3 Tips To Improve Sunday With An Alcoholic Spouse
Today is Sunday which should mean quality family time . However, if you are married to an alcoholic spouse, Sunday often translates to hangover time. It’s you by your lonesome or you with your children- no partner actively participating in the family. You feel resentful and lonely living with your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife. There is nothing lonelier than living with someone who ignores you.
Here are 3 tips to have a better Sunday even if you are living with an alcoholic:
1. Enjoy nature today. Take your kids on a hike or a walk. If you are outside with one of your children’s sports activities, take time to look at the sky, the trees, any flowers that might be blooming. Reconnect for a moment with nature.
2. Concentrate on one of your good and positive relationships. (Do not dwell on your alcoholic spouse). This may be with one of your kids, a relative, your best friend, someone from work you have gotten close with. Call that person today.
3. Get in the mindset that YOU will make this a good day. Make it a goal today to NOT let your alcoholic husband or alcoholic spouse ruin your day, AGAIN.
Detaching from an alcoholic spouse is what Al-Anon can help with. I am not sure “detaching” is the right approach. I think concentrating and building on the positives in your life is the most empowering strategy to turn things around.
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2 Responses to “3 Tips To Improve Sunday With An Alcoholic Spouse”
Jmed on April 13, 2011
Hello there, the tips you’ve given are great but I was wondering where if you hade any tips on how to help an alcoholic try to get help? Especially one who doesn’t want it? My father has stages where he wants to get help, will stay sober for two weeks, but then will spend the next three drunk out of his mind almost every night. He’s had two DUI’s, spent the night in jail and I’ve noticed that he’s slowly becoming more violent- and none of it seems to register with him. I really would appreciate any advice, my mother tries to ignore it and he’s really a great guy when sober but I feel like my hands are tied behind my back…
Anonymous on April 15, 2011
It’s a good sign that your father has periods where he is sober, but ihe clearly hasn’t reached his own “bottom” where his is committed to his sobriety despite some serious legal consequences (2 DUI’s). Your mom and other family members have to let him suffer the consequences of his disease before he is willing to do the hard work for recovery. Rehab may be a very good step for him to detox in a safe environment and learn some skills about how to live sober. The family learning to set boundaries and quit “rescuing” him can help motivate him to get help. See if your mom is open to AL-Anon . If you are a teenager. You might start a discussion on my new website: http://alcoholicintervention.org and get online support from others in your situation.