Alcoholic Spouse? 3 Tips To Handle Your Distrust
As a psychiatrist that treats alcoholics (addicts) and their spouses, I have observed that being married to an alcoholic spouse damages a person’s ability to trust in the deepest way. Your alcoholic husband or wife is inherently unreliable- i.e. coming home late, ignoring your calls, hiding their excessive drinking from you. In the process of living with an alcoholic, you become distrustful and suspicious; always waiting for the other shoe to drop.
Here are 3 ways to handle your distrust:
1. Make sure to reach out for help from your “inner circle” which can include relatives and friends. Take a chance and confide in someone that your spouse has a problem with excessive drinking.
2. Start going to Al-Anon meetings where you can connect with other people living with an alcoholic. This is a great step in not feeling so isolated.
3. Consider going to a therapist or joining a group therapy situation. Losing trust is very toxic and can make someone feel alone and hopeless. It intensifies codependent issues because your feel you can’t make it on your own. Everyone needs support to change their life.
The irony of this advice is that you HAVE to take a risk and trust someone to gain the confidence that you can trust again. Some spouses of alcoholics grew up with an alcoholic parent and their trust issues go back a long way which is the root of being codependent. It is time to heal. You deserve it. Follow those 3 tips and it will put you on the path to positive change.
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