Alcoholic Spouse? 4 Tactics To Quit Fighting
If you are living with an alcoholic, your married life is most likely filled with anger and chaos. Your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife is probably very skilled in pushing all your buttons. You are probably a giving, sweet person and can hardly believe how angry you can get with your alcoholic spouse. In your mind, you don’t want to be so easily lured into another fight, but it feels out of your control. What can you do?
Here are 4 tips to quit fighting with your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife:
1. When your alcoholic spouse pushes your buttons, before shouting back, take the time to respond in a different way. Say something like, “I’m not going to fight with you about this today”, or ”I’m sorry you feel that way”.
2. Don’t engage in a fight when your alcoholic spouse has been drinking. If you spouse tries to provoke a fight, you can say,”Let’s talk about this later” or “I can see this is very important to you and I want to talk about this when we can discuss it in a calm way”.
3. Take a step back from the situation. Pretend you are from the outside looking in. How is your alcoholic spouse “tricking” or “baiting” you into another big fight. It is probably by blaming you for his or her excessive drinking. Learn to let criticisms roll off of you like water off a duck’s back. When you figure out their “tactics”, they will have less control over you.
4. Get your”army” of support together such as close friends, relatives, people from Al-Anon meetings that you can vent to when you are frustrated.
It takes practice to carry out these tactics because you are learning a new skill. You are breaking a vicious cycle. Your alcoholic spouse has a chronic, progressive disease. When you truly understand this, it may help you feel more compassionate. At some level, your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife is afraid their brain is hostage to alcohol, and this comes out as anger.
When you change, your alcoholic spouse will change.
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