Quiz: Is Your Marriage To Your Alcoholic Spouse Worth It?
Quiz of the day: 5 Questions
Is your marriage to your alcoholic spouse worth it?
- If you know today that your alcoholic spouse will not change, are you prepared to accept that your future will be the same or worse as your life is now?
- Are you afraid you of being on your own without your alcoholic husband? Maybe you are dependent on him financially. Maybe you are dependent on an alcoholic wife to take care of the kids while you are at work and you are wondering how everything would be juggled in a divorce.
- You probably love your husband very much, but ask yourself : “Is he(she) treating you in a loving way ?”
- Are you worried you will never find anyone else, that your alcoholic spouse is the best you can do?
- Are you worried that if you get divorced, that your kids will be unsupervised with an alcoholic parent who will not keep them safe (drive them around when they have been drinking, be verbally or physically abusive when drinking etc)?
And your decision is…(drumroll)
The only person who can decide if it is worth staying in your marriage is YOU!
If you are living with an alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife, you are probably asking yourself this question, “Is it worth the pain and drama to stay married?” Should you call it quits?
You are trying to balance your love for your spouse with your own unmet needs, your chaotic life, the needs of your children, and your fears about change. You are most likely the giver and your alcoholic spouse, the taker. You may already feel you have lost your spouse to alcohol.
For now- try not to focus so much on the problems of your alcoholic spouse and put some work into improving your own life (the parts you have control over such as your friends, relatives, your job, your kids etc). As you do this, you will naturally fall out of the role of an enabler to your alcoholic spouse. Seeing a therapist and/or going to Al–anon meetings can help with this too.
Taking on a new role in your family will model to your spouse and to your kids that the hard effort you make to change yourself pays off. You will feel much better about yourself and then you can make a decision about your marriage from a position of strength, not weakness.
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