Your Alcoholic Spouse: Questions About Setting Healthy Boundaries
Heather asks…
How do I set healthy boundaries with my alcoholic spouse?
Dr. Uhr answers:
Talk to your alcoholic spouse when they are sober. Let your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife know that if they start to “pick a fight” when they have been drinking, that you are not interested in fighting with them. If they are trying to provoke you when drunk, do not “engage” or take the bait. When they criticize you, just say you are sorry they feel that way.
If your alcoholic spouse is calling you names, you should never put up with this type of disrespect. You might consider leaving the house for several hours or asking your alcoholic spouse to leave even if it means taking your children with you. It is a strong message you won’t take it anymore.
Start going to Al-anon meetings to get support from other people in similare tough situations.
The very best boundary for you to establish is to start taking care of yourself, including Al-anon meetings, spending time with friends and family, and making plans that don’t depend on your husband or alcoholic wife showing up.
As you conquer your codependency issues, your alcoholic spouse is MUCH more likely to enter recovery and most importantly you will separate their disease of addiction from your self-esteem.
If you want additional help turning your marriage around click here to register for my free report on, “ 5 Proven Methods For a Healthier Marriage With Your Alcoholic Spouse”. It may save your family’s life. The information in this report gives you very simple strategies that could very well save your marriage.
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